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Q My seven-year-old stepson, who is in the first grade, is having some major problems in school. He has a behavior problem: His attention is focused on when the next time is that he can play. He cries and gets a terrible attitude when we have him practice his math at home. He says it is too hard and that he doesn't know how to do it. His teacher has told us that he's always asking to go to the bathroom, just to get out of doing his classroom work. What can we do? A Try to find out first why your stepson is doing these things. Is he the youngest child in the class, and so perhaps not ready to do the things he is being asked? Are there possible learning problems -- is the work too difficult for him? Has he been through some recent changes at home (new baby, move to a new home, etc.) that would give him a reason to need more attention?

Efter at have overvejet de mulige årsager til din stedsøns adfærd, skal du lave en plan for at hjælpe din stedsøn med at overvinde disse vanskeligheder. At hjælpe ham med at fungere kan omfatte at reducere mængden af ​​arbejde, han skal udføre, eller få ekstra hjælp, såsom træning. Hvis problemet virker mere følelsesladet, vil du måske finde måder at bruge mere tid sammen med ham på eller søge familierådgivning.

Hvis du tror, ​​at en positiv adfærdsplan kan hjælpe i denne situation, så lav en plan sammen med din stedsøns lærer. Først skal du vælge en eller to adfærd at øve sig på, og bed læreren om at sende dig en note hver dag, der forklarer, hvad de gjorde. Godmorgen kan bringe dig en godnathistorie eller bare en gåtur rundt i nabolaget; hvis du har venner at hænge ud med i weekenden, kan du tjene to eller tre dage om ugen. Efterhånden som din stedsøns adfærd forbedres, kan du øge antallet af god adfærd, der kræves for at tjene belønningen. Nøglen til et sådant system er dets konsekvente langsigtede brug.



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