Q What can I do to help my child who is being verbally abused by his teacher? Are there any laws against this? I have a 10-year-old son who says his teacher calls him and other children in his class 'dummy,' 'stupid,' 'retarded,' 'dumb,' etc. Is there anything as a parent that I can do? I have spoken to seven other parents who in turn ask their children if the teacher was saying anything to them that she shouldn't. All of the children said the same thing, along with the fact that she yells at them all the time. My son and the other children have all stated if the teacher finds out they said this, she would kill them. This is the fourth grade. Some of the children have stated the principal also calls them names in computer class. A Yes, there are laws, both federal and state laws, forbidding teachers from harassing, teasing, and otherwise verbally or physically abusing kids. I am presuming that all these kids are telling the truth about this teacher's verbal abuse but it is possible that all of them could conspire to 'get her' with a shared false story of her verbal abuse because of their dislike for her. On the surface, it is rather convincing that seven other kids echoed your son's specific complaints. How they were asked by their parents, however, may have influenced the kids' replies, as in, 'Has your teacher ever called you words like dummy, stupid and retarded?' When asked in this manner, all the kids had to do was say 'Yes.' I raise this point not to question your son's honesty, only to point out that I have seen teachers' and other child care providers' reputations ruined by children's lies. The fact that these kids have expressed fear about your possibly calling this teacher on the carpet for this abuse leads me to favor believing them at this time, since kids who had cooked up a group lie to harm a teacher would want her confronted with their accusations by their parents. Hvis jeg opdager, at alle disse børn taler sandt, vil jeg mødes med forældrene til alle disse børn, og vi vil diskutere en samlet handlingsplan. For det første ønskede jeg at indsamle så mange sager om børnemishandling med så mange detaljer som muligt (dato, tidspunkt og omstændigheder). Så ville jeg lave en aftale med den lærer. Alle forældre skal deltage i dette møde. På dette møde vil jeg give læreren dit skriftlige dokument og bede dem om at svare. På baggrund af de modtagne svar og tilfredshed vil forældregruppen tage stilling til, hvordan man kommer videre. Hvis du ikke er tilfreds, skal du eskalere problemet til de næste administrative niveauer (rektor, forstander, skolebestyrelse), indtil du er tilfreds.
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Forsikre dit barn om, at du ikke vil straffe ham, hvis han rapporterer, at denne lærer har opført sig forkert med ham. Ros dem for at have modet til at tale sandt over for uretfærdig og ubehagelig behandling. Børn bør aldrig opleve denne form for adfærd fra nogen voksen, meget mindre fra en lærer, der er ansvarlig for deres opdragelse og social-emotionelle udvikling. Hold mig orienteret om dine fremskridt.
